Fear Of It…Brings it to You.
Everyone has experienced it at some time or another. As a kid, my mother would always tell me to listen to my teacher and to be good in school. As kids do, I would listen in one ear, and it would go right out the other one.
When I ventured onto the school bus and got in class, temptation would hit and I’d find myself misbehaving. I never thought about the consequences while in the moment but afterwards I knew I had to answer to my mom.
As school ended, I feared what would come once my mother got home from work and received a call from my teacher.
I’m not ashamed to say my punishment often came in the form of a spanking.
I had my share of spankings as I climbed into my teenage years.
As I got older, I was no longer under the umbrella of my mom and the fear of her and the disciplined she instilled faded away.
What We Fear As Adults
What is the number one fear? If you said public speaking, you would be correct.
The thought of standing in front of a group of people delivering a speech scares the “beejeezus” out of lots of people.
Allow me to speak from my viewpoint of someone who hated and feared public speaking. Hate and Fear are very powerful emotions and thus “attractors” of reality, more on this later.
I remember many class projects where I’d stand in front of the class stuttering, sweating, and trembling.
I knew what I wanted to say but somehow the words wouldn’t come out. My greatest fear, even before leaving my seat, was I’d stand in from the class and make a complete idiot out of myself.
Guess what happened?
Yup, I would get in front of the class and look like a ramblin’ wreck. Years later I realized, my fear was merged with judgement of self and a self love deficit I needed to fill.
When I got my “aha” moment things changed significantly and I now thoroughly enjoy speaking publicly.
Fear Brings It To You
Fear is a paralyzing emotion. Thinking of it from a metaphorical perspective, fear is quicksand. You know you have to get out of it, but you can’t go anywhere.
The more you struggle …the deeper you go.
It took me years to find out I was judging myself therefore others had to judge me when I spoke.
I was, in effect, struggling in my own sand and sinking deeper day after day.
Once I realized life is a mirror and I incorporated loving myself the fear dissipated.
As I recollect, speaking in front of others popped up regularly in the past. My fear of it, drew it right to me.
What we fear will always appear in our reality.
Fears of the People
If public speaking is the biggest fear, what are the others? People also fear dying.
Intertwined within the terror is the fear of the unknown.
Where am I going? Does heaven and hell exist? Is it over when the physical shell is departed?
Fearing death is understandable but what about the fear of success, failure, or cancer. How can we or why do we rationalize these fears?
There are very few who voice their fears. Most are silently tucked away only to arise at some point in our lives to be confronted.
It is very likely things we experience as negative in our lives have magnetized from a fear state of being.
Loss of a job, a loved one, or a home started as a fearful thought and then “abracadabra!”
It appeared right before our eyes.
Fear is very powerful. It is one of the biggest motivators.
Our world is predicated on it.
Think about it.
The fear of having something you don’t or may have such as an illness. The fear of not having something you need such as money.
I could go on and on.
You get the picture, right?
If we are constantly in a state of fear which most people are, is it fair to say we are bringing to fruition what we fear?
When our focus is on fear it has to grow.
It is law!
Fear is powerful and because of its power it acts like a magnet and draws negative circumstances,people,and situations.
The only thing that can erase fear of anything is love.
Very few people step into the fringes of love in life. It exposes us and the exposure is scary.
Love will always impose fear.
When faced with the choice of fear or love, see things through love.
Everything becomes easier when you look through love rather than fear.
What do you love?